Your self-talk can make or break your dating life. Even if you are fine as hell.

If you are critical of yourself, you will weaken your confidence and project that energy. And why do that to yourself, when you are such a lovely person?

The truth is, if you want to have more dates with the right kind of men, it’s about switching your mindset from being the moth to being the FLAME.

The flame doesn’t say to itself, “Get it together, flame! You are NOT bright enough! No moths are gonna want some of this!”

The flame just stands still and burns brightly.

And attracts moths like crazy.

Switch it around and love yourself first with your words, so you can open yourself up to receiving love from others. Like those equally fine as hell men who want what you want from a relationship.

It sounds cliche, but it really is crucial for your dating life, your spirit, your energy and your overall well-being for you to love yourself (or at least be willing to learn to love yourself).

People always talk about loving yourself, but no one really tells you how to do it.

The first step is to stop criticizing yourself. Check out how in the video above.

One more thing…

YOU CAN DO IT.

Just remember that it isn’t about making a huge change all at once. It’s about taking little steps toward growing more and more into yourself.

And it’s about being willing. Not about being perfect. Just being willing.

And then I’d love to hear from you. How do you criticize yourself now? Could you begin to be willing to let go of that criticism? Let me know in the comments below.

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