Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.

— Carl Jung

I’ve been down lately.

I know rationally that it’s just a combination of a bunch of little things going wrong and that it won’t last forever.

But as I’m going through it, no matter how many well-meaning tidbits of advice I receive (usually from other coaches), no matter how much “self-coaching” and affirming I do, no matter how much help I have, there is no denying that sometimes things just get sucky.

I don’t think the answer has to do with forcing myself to be happier, gritting my teeth and just choosing more positive thoughts.

Human beings are complex and sadness has to be felt before it can be released.

Burying sadness, pretending to be happy and acting like you have it together all the time doesn’t fix anything. It just makes you feel guilty for being a phony on top of already feeling sad. 

If you’ve felt this way in your business or life lately, can I share with you what got me out of my most recent funk? 

I call it “saving a space for my Happy.” 

What turns it around for me is looking at my life like an observer. Not immediately reacting to things that push my buttons emotionally. Putting away all of the books that tell me how to be a better person and sitting with the idea that maybe I’m OK right now, just as I am. Taking a few minutes to breathe, be quiet, and wait for Divine instructions. 

Last night, I almost didn’t go to a really great get together because I was in the 4th day of my emotional funk, but my Divine instructions were to get dressed and go ahead anyway. Being in the presence of other like-minded people that were actively creating the lives they wanted was inspiring and recharged me. I met lovely people I never would have met otherwise. I took my introverted self by the hand and helped her make some new friends.

It was exactly what I needed.

You don’t have to force yourself to be happy when you aren’t feeling it. Just be open to “saving a space for your Happy.” 

It will always come back. XOXO

Now I’d like to hear from you. What do you do to take care of yourself when you’re feeling sad? Let me know in the comments below. 

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